Are Male Sex Toys Taboo?

Is it taboo for men to buy and use toys like masturbators, onaholes, strokers? Clearly, this is an opinionated question, but I stand firmly in the camp of it being a totally normal thing. Masturbation is a normal and healthy part of life, so why would anyone say otherwise?

The Taboo Summarized

Society is a tricky place to navigate when it comes to our sexual health and toys for men. Many men may feel that using toys to enhance their personal time is taboo. There is a pervasive toxicity for men: they are the provider, the hunter, the achiever. There is an implied perception that a man who resorts to using sex toys for their own pleasure is incapable of finding a partner. That’s a whole thing that’s a whole toxic thing that I am not eloquent enough to write about, but a living man enough to feel in my core.

I’ve also heard rumors that toys reduce a man’s virility with a lower sex drive and sperm count. Were these rumors also from friends who didn’t want to admit being interested in male sex toys? Maybe. Look, I’m not a doctor; I can’t prove the health claims one way or another. I think about it the same way I do unassisted masturbation. If you do it all the time, there may be some health side-effects. If you find a particular toy that feels so good you want to fuck it more than once a day for a week, then I would say yeah, maybe cool it. I highly doubt it’s the toy itself that’s changing your body’s anatomy.

Here is the thing: after years of enjoying my sex toy experiences, I haven’t seen any affect on my libido. So, screw the toxicity. Toys are fun; let’s enjoy!

Anyone’s sex life is their own business unless they are open enough to talking about it. Why should your masturbation habits be any different? Don’t worry about what happens if someone finds out; your personal time is your business alone whether you’re jacking it in the shower, are dipping your toes in the water with a stroker from LoveHoney, enjoying a gal’s onahole mouth from Jlist, or have a whole evening prepared with your thousand-dollar RealDoll sex doll. Don’t make the mistake of putting that societal pressure on yourself; you’re better than that, and you deserve better.

In fact, you might be surprised how many men admit to owning sex toys. In a survey of over 1700 people published in 2023 by the Statista.com Research Department, 74% of the men surveyed admitted to owning a sex toy. The results definitely surprised me when compared to the 82% of women admitting to the same; I would have predicted a larger discrepancy. To be fair, the survey does not specify the type of sex toy. Anyone who may be embarrassed could use an excuse like, “Yeah, I own a vibrator for foreplay when a lady friend comes over,” or something similar. However, I believe that an openness to purchasing and housing an item like that is still a step away from toxicity.

Yes! I absolutely recommend giving it a try. Remember, the only one holding you back is yourself. There are dozens of great sites for you to choose something from, or you can check out your friendly local sex store. If you don’t know where to start, check out my Starter Guide. If you have any questions or need any recommendations, seek out one of the great sex-positive communities online.